Dear T

 Do not think that i am on your side. We’re great friends and i know as your friend slash surrogate sis i should be supporting you. But you yourself said, that with the many impulsive decisions you have been making for the past months, that you really deserve to eb seriously harmed physically. Just to knock some sense into your head. Maybe my martial arts skills will do.

But you know that as “feeling” Buddhist we advocate non-violence, and therefore believe that the right words can do the trick. So you have been in deep shit lately. Something happened and i never found out till a week after. Maybe i was too busy, maybe i just deplore local showbiz that much that i do not really care what goes on in it. Much as i know that eventually you’ll get yourself in deep showbiz shit i never expected it could be of this nature. Stalking? Grave threat? They have some nerve, sis. I swear.

And once more, you have amazed me with your carelessness, how could you have allowed things to just happen to you like that? I know you’re impulsive, and crazy and nasty, but you will never ever intend to inflict harm. I know how you operate, i know how you talk, i know sometimes how you feel and what goes on in your crazy head, you can be a real brat sometimes. But i know for sure you do not deserve the way you have been treated by the media, and the people who accused you. They’re all getting just one side of the story. So you have chosen to remain silent, not as an admission of guilt but to protect people that matter to you. But it is unfair that they’re all coming up with these speculations, and judging you, without even thinking that there are always two sides to a story.

I am not on your side, but i am your friend. And i am here not to cheer you on, on bitch about the people who have been the reason for your pain over the past couple of weeks. But i am here to try my best help you what to do. So it’s all legalities now. We cannot undo what has been said and done, but hopefully we can do something to clear your name.

You are not as grave as the criem you are accused of, nor are you any of the things the media perceives you to be.

summer unleashes my hot temper, and one reason is…

I cannot believe how scorching hot this year’s summer is. Since the equinox on march 21^st, it’s pure hell anywhere you go without the mercy of an airconditioner. My room feels like a sauna, and that’s even withair blasting from the fan. I wanted to live in my office now, where i can turn the AC up, while feasting on ice cream or frozen fruits. Speaking of ice cream, i eat the stuff every single day now, just to beat the heat. Drinking lots of ice cold h2o isn’t enough, so i stock up on Gatorade or Rush as well and is slowly becoming addicted to the stuff.

I keep the shower gels, lotion and cologne in the refrigerator to help me cool down when i use them during and after taking a shower. I put cold compress in my forehead and neck too. I walk inside the mall when i have the time just to keep myself cool. Because i swear, the weather has an uncanny, and sometimes dangerous effect on me. LOL

So if anyone has any more suggestions on how i can beat the summer heat (trips to the ebach not included please, i don’t wanna get fried!) just let me know!

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Having been exposed to the field of HR and having been in the ahnds of good companies and employers, i have gone through evaluations several times and each one of them had been very enriching experiences. Granted that that is where my performance is dissected, poked and prodded, i never felt as if i was being unfairly treated, nor did i ever felt that i was ever personally atacked. I have had my share of negative criticisms, but they were all said in a diplomatic way and proved to be very constructive.

I have always had the impression that people who do the evaluation are capable, mature and professional individuals who are credible enough to be given such task. They are unbiased, they do not have to be very eloquent in their speech but they’re sensitive and know which words to use. So it still surprises me that in this day and age, amidst evolution and progress, we still have people who are seemingly backward in their views and are not exactly credible and capable as evaluators. And to think they are in positions where they’re expected to be worth an employees trust and respect.

But who would respect supervisors who just spew out criticism after criticism using the most inappropriate of words, unfounded accusations, and even direct attacks without even explaining to the employee why they said those in the first place? And how about unnecessary remarks as “you always go to work early. You’re probably just putting your best foot forward, i doubt you’ll stay that way once you’re regularized.” WTF?? These people clearly need to take exposure trips to companies like ADB, Jollibee or GMA-7 where they can see employees eager to go to work early and even do OT because they are treated real good by the company that employs them.

And to think these asshole supervisors are from this service-oriented company which is supposed to be well-respected and “most preferred”. I do not want to generalize and say that it’s the same case in every country where this company operates, but well, their Philippine counterpart sure need to undergo tons of training in HR management and employee relations first. I am tempted to say the name of the said company, but my friend who was a victim of such unfair treatment pleaded for me not to.

And now, i wonder how they should expect my friend to act as if nothing happened. Sheesh.

I know how my friend works, and she loves her job! So its really disheartening to hear comments like she’s rude,self-righteous and that her smile doesn’t look genuine. What a nice way to bring a person down, huh?

I just wished that instead of breaking down, my friend asked questions tried to say something about the comments. But i guess she never expected she would have so many negative remarks, regarding a job which she really enjoys doing.